Challenges to a romantic relationship come in the form of problems and issues. Ideally, they are intended to further reinforce bonds while testing the love and sincerity of both partners for each other. They do not come easy. They may ignite disagreements. Worse case scenarios result to riffs that eventually broaden until the relationship dissolves completely.
Why do challenges sometimes break up couples instead of further strengthening their bond? Ponder on the following answers:
Both of you or one of you is resistant to change.
In life, change is a fixture. Regardless of circumstance or prevailing issues, it will come. It will take place whether you choose to embrace it or not. As with other kinds of relationships, couples are prone to experiencing changes. There is no telling the exact way whereby these can take place since situations vary on a per couple basis. Because it is inevitable, partners should remain flexible (as much as possible or all the time). Doing so not only promotes their growth as a couple. But it also makes their bond stronger and more resilient. Thus, they can be expected to stay together. Problems do not break them. Instead it further intensifies their love and trust for each other.
You (or both of you) deliberately choose to turn a blind eye to persisting problems.
Who does not want a harmonious relationship absolutely free of rough patches? But this is not how relationships are developed and proven. As with all else, challenges will line the course and put the couple to the test. These challenges are problems and issues that may arise from all sorts of things that either directly or indirectly involves them. They may manage to avoid some but not all. But what is most important is that they stay together and work with each other to overcome their challenges.
Every time problems surface, they should discuss it and try to find ways to resolve it while carefully considering each other’s feelings and welfare. Evading them does not guarantee that they will not be forced to face it later on. Denying it will only aggravate their situation. Why? The more they delay acknowledging it, the bigger the problem grows. In turn, as the problem worsens, the greater the pressure is for them to find an effective solution. If delayed too long, they may experience time constraint, which further aggravates and complicates matters.
If it happens that one or both of them spot the problem before it becomes full blown, they should take a proactive stance and come up with the best way to address it. Issues and problems are better handled during the early stages. If not, they more they should take on a proactive mindset, and work even more closely together to find the best approach.
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